“I have never divorced before; I am overwhelmed, I don’t know where to begin. I don’t want to spend all my money or have a nasty fight with my spouse. I don’t know where to start!!” I have heard these words all too often from clients once the decision to divorce has been made. To be as helpful as I can, I go through my summary of choices that need to be made: what, when and how to tell the children; what type of legal process choices are available; what may be the short-term